A Gentleman Dancer

Here's my suggestions as to how men can be gentlemen on the dancefloor, where chivalry stills reigns – or should. Maybe someone can write and tell me how women can be ladies (I am one*). The only thing I know about this is that we should always keep dancing. No matter what happens, whether you screw up or they do or whatever, we should keep dancing. But I'm sure there's more. Anyway, to the point at hand:-

• Start dancing with the easy stuff. If the woman's nervous, keep doing this until she's relaxed and comfortable.

• Always be gentle with her (but not so gentle she can't tell what you want her to do). This will make her feel respected and appreciated. If you're getting a bit behind and need to fling her to make it round in time, don't. You'll both enjoy the dance much more if you just miss that move.

• Keep it interesting, but not too interesting. That way she won't be bored but she won't be stressed out and dismayed either. Dancing at her level shows you're accepting of where she's at.

• And intersperse the interesting bits with some easy bits so she can have a bit of a rest and regain energy and focus. This is especially good for appreciating the music and for slower, more cruisy points in the song.

• Smile (or at least don't look pissed off) when she screws up. This will help her to stay relaxed and enjoying the dance.

• If you critique her dancing do it gently/tentatively, so she'll feel encouraged to improve.

• When the floor's crowded, dance simply so she feels safe.

*a Little Britain reference