Hear me

Each person's suffering is unique, or, if it's not, it feels that way, this thing that's bearing down on you now. Maybe other people have gone through the exact same thing, or worse, and felt the same way. But if you're caring for me, I want to know you're caring for me. Not because I'm selfish (though I might be), but because I'm the one who has to endure the pain. I need to know that you understand and care about what I'm going through. So don't tell someone who's separated about your own divorce, and don't share with single people the grim life of a married couple you know. At least not at first. First, just hear them tell where they're at.