What to say next / 2

I don't always know what to say next when I half agree and half disagree with someone. I guess I could express approval for the bit I like, but sometimes if I do that, I'll look like I'm supporting more than I am. As an example, recently someone was describing the traditional Catholic practice of having a celebratory meal after a funeral as a bit barbaric (or at least I think that's what they were saying - I may have misunderstood). I wanted to defend the practice and say - "It makes sense if they think the person is happy in heaven". But I bit my tongue, not wanting to imply that the Evangelical and Catholic church are just different expressions of the same faith, when I think the differences are near as profound as they could be. And yet, on many, more superficial things our different faiths are in accord...

I know what I need to do. I need to forget that we're talking about Catholicism or Seventh Day Adventistism or whatever and introduce a new subject - the Gospel. So, in the example above, I might have said, "In my church, funerals are a time of great sadness and of great joy - because we really do believe that Jesus conquered death on the cross and that our sister is with him now, even happier than before" (or perhaps something a little shorter - my Spanish isn't that good yet). This will be hard for me - I get very focussed on the precise subject at hand - but with God's help I'll do it.